Guiding
Principles
How many of you are married with children
or had brothers and sisters? I’m sure
you noticed the personality differences despite the almost identical upbringing. Family life closely resembles a scientific
experiment without the control factors.
Testing and research prove that certain aspects of our personality are
inherited. Gene research has proved how
amazingly similar we all are, but how a little rearranging of the DNA makes us
uniquely different.
We know by observation and previous
studies that people often fall into four distinct personality styles.
1.
Outgoing
2.
Domineering
3.
Perfectionists
4.
Low key
Let’s accept as a premise that some people
have a little leg up in our culture by personality style. In the business culture that exists, the
domineering types and perfectionists tend to do better than the fun loving/outgoing
or low key personality types. And yes of course, there are exceptions! Now let’s complicate the issue by revealing
that the primary emotional and learning capabilities we have, are established
between the ages of 1 and 5. The most revealing fact here is that you are
emotionally established by your environment at a very early age.
Remember the obligatory computer
programming course you had to take in High School or College? G. I. G. O., Garbage In Garbage Out. It looks like our lifestyle has the same premise.
What if we changed the programming to E.
I. E. O? Excellence In Excellence Out.
Could that make a difference?
Now we have established that we are
pre-wired, but to a large extent we are like a brand-new computer. The basic operating programs are installed,
but the hard drive still has a tremendous capacity for more programs.
You may have some obstacles to overcome,
or you may have had a tremendously nurturing, joyful childhood. But the truth is as adults, we all have a
choice about how we are going to act.
Some old negative programming can be overwritten with enough
diligence. The human mind has amazing
capacity if it is stretched. All of us have a tremendous capability to change
if the right energy and discipline is applied.
Here is a little tip to help you during a
time of transition. Remember the old
remedy for controlling anger? Count to
10 before you speak? Think of life’s
daily events as an A-B-C event sequence.
Instead of potentially explosive incident A leading to negative reaction
C. Insert the filter B into the thought
process. B is the filtering thought that
allows us to consider the consequences of our actions. That will be one small step in reprogramming
our thinking.
If we want to develop an internal source
of motivation, then I suggest we adopt a model used by many wise individuals
and companies.
Establish 3-6 guiding principles for your
life and develop a mission statement that addresses the goals you have set for
yourself. The principles should be the
guiding beacons that direct the mission statement you develop.
The principles should be axioms that will
not change due to circumstances or time.
Therefore, they are long term value statements on the way to run your
life. Principles should be statements
such as:
1. I
will treat others with respect, dignity, and deep concern for their wellbeing.
(Golden Rule Mentality)
2. I
will always practice truthfulness and integrity.
3. I
will not give my commitment to anything that I cannot or will not keep.
4. I
will give 100% to anything I commit to.
5. I
will practice the highest quality and fairness in all my endeavors.
6. My
primary motivation is a God centered relationship.
The principles guide the mission
statement. The mission statements can be
short- or long-term goals. Goals may be
actions or activities such as:
•
I will earn my MBA within 3-4
years
•
I will lose 15 lbs by years
end
•
My company will achieve the
agreed upon sales and profitability goals for this fiscal year.
•
My company will earn an ISO
9001 rating within 10 months
•
I will learn enough Spanish to
have a working vocabulary within the next 24 months
Does it sound too simple to be true, can
it really be that easy? How do you
produce a habit, and eliminate old thinking styles?
Work hard to eliminate or reduce the old,
ingrained thought patterns that had a negative impact on your personal and
business life, realizing that they are punitive to you and others around
you. Replace the old self diminishing
thoughts with your set of guiding principles.
Print out a copy or jot your principles on a note card and place it in
your day timer or wallet. Read that list
of principles before you go to work in the morning, noon and night. Review your daily conduct considering the
principles you have set for yourself.
Strive to correct any conduct
deficiencies.
Your principles will direct the approach
you take to achieve your goals. Set
logical, step by step approaches to the accomplishment of these goals in
reasonable time periods. Check your
progress periodically and you will be pleasantly surprised at the
accomplishments.
In addition to your repetitive review of
the guiding principles, try these things to assist with your new internal
motivation goal.
•
Read books that provide
insight into admirable character
•
Sign up for a course in your
area of interest
•
Memorize your principles and
focus on them to guide your plans
•
Develop a positive, can-do
attitude
•
Develop and conduct action-oriented
objectives
•
Be aware, your self-value is
secure in God’s love, failures are learning events
•
Focus on the important, leave
the trivial behind
•
Deeply value
relationships
•
Be other centered
•
Surround yourself with can do
people
•
Avoid anger and judgmental
thinking
•
Seek out positive personal
growth
•
Get a proper diet, rest, and
exercise
•
Enjoy life
In conclusion, success has three important
components:
1.
Drive: The internal desire to
obtain a goal
2.
Personal focus: The ability to
focus on your goals and avoid trivial activities
3.
Discipline: Working through
difficult issues that will help us obtain our goals
Apply these principles to build the
motivation that will carry you to success in your life. Replace the old with
the new and positive. Remember; you
determine your attitude, not life’s circumstances. Focus on the things within your control and
don’t let those outside your control bother you. Utilize your principles and goals to direct
your life to new levels of achievement.
Gary D. Seale - MBA
The Trucon Consulting Group
www.truconbd.com